I was inspired to write this article due to the latest news about Beyonce's performance at the Grammy's. In my opinion, there was nothing new about Beyonce's performance; it was provocative and she was scantily clad. Some people say it was her worst performance and others say she killed it. But there is one thing I found to be different about it all, her daughter. What is she teaching her?
Minister Louis Farrakhan made a comment today regarding the same subject stating, "Women are beautiful and the female body is attractive, but a real man cannot think sane thoughts with the female form on his mind. Girls look at television, watching beautiful Beyonce with her beautiful body, but her moves are so provocative. The child does not know anything about sex, but sees that adults approve of those provocative dances, and begins to imitate Beyonce'. As young as four and three, girls are learning to shake their bodies in vulgar dances, yet no one seems to be speaking to this as the destruction of potential virtue." Beyonce' is telling her daughter that it is okay to be sexually explicit. She's telling her that it is okay for her to put more value in her body than in her mental and spiritual development. Although Beyonce’ has a beautiful voice, she is also known for her body among both men and women. What is the purpose of wearing revealing clothes? What does that do to the minds of not only young men but young women?
According to a team of researchers at Princeton University that performed MRI brain scans on heterosexual men, they found that the men had an unmistakable response to women wearing less clothing. The less they wore, the more likely it was for the premotor cortex and the posterior middle temporal gyrus to light up. These are the areas of the brain associated with tool use, hand manipulation, and the urge to take action. “It was as if they immediately thought about how they might act on these bodies,” psychologist Susan Fiske explained. “They are reacting to these photographs as people react to objects,” she said. Fiske and her team further examined the men for hostile sexist attitudes. They found that those that were more hostile had little activity in areas of the brain that are associated with considering another person’s thoughts and feelings when looking at sexualized photos of women in bikinis. “They are not thinking about their minds,” said Fiske. Mina Cikara, a Princeton University graduate student who was also involved in conducting the study, added that men do not view their wives or sisters in the same manner they view sexualized images of women.
When a man sees Beyonce' and other women who are inappropriately dressed, they are not looking to find out who she is as a person or for educational purposes. They are looking at her adornments. Because it is natural for both men and young boy's to have the desire look at a woman's body they are drawn to her nakedness especially since they have not been taught to control their sexual urges. This is what we, as women, are responsible for. We are responsible for what we give them to look at. We should protect ourselves from the gazes of men with weak morals, from those seeking to indulge in worldly pleasures (sex) and prevent them from being able to be so free to engage in unnecessary discussion about our bodies. Men, how would you feel if you saw men looking at or heard them talking about your mother, sister or wife's body the way you do other women? If you have any love for the women in your life, you would want to jump down their throats. Well, you should respect yourself and women enough to hold yourself up to the same standards Practice controlling your sexual urges. It is possible but unfortunately, you have to teach yourself since you haven't been taught to do so.
The young girls who see Beyonce' dancing provocatively, dressing immodestly and see all of the attention she gets, begin to imitate and emulate her. They do not understand that dressing in such a way shows lack of self-respect and self-love. They do not understand that dressing that way invites men that are interested in their physical assets. Our young girls are encouraged to behave and dress this way because the mothers, aunts and even grandmothers find it amusing when she's four years old and popping her behind to the music but when she's 16 and pregnant she is looked down upon. Our young girls and women need to be taught that they should not put value in how many men she can attract. Women should be proud to show off their intelligence. Why should we conform to the majority in what they say and wear? The answer is, we shouldn't. Modesty creates a barrier against men who stare or disrespect your boundaries. It is a barrier to prevent or change that first instinctive look men get to check you out and see what you are about. It also prevents the sexual feelings you don't intend them to feel or ideas in their heads that are created by dressing provocatively. When a woman is modestly dressed, she understands the nature of a man but teaches him without even talking to him that he needs to respect her.
As I always say, ultimately, these are the words of God. He wants both men and women to respect each other and themselves as He would.
I hope you all enjoyed this weeks article! I encourage everyone, both men and women, to give their opinion on this topic and the previous topics. If there is anything you want to add or don't agree with just post a comment right below this article and let's talk about it. Please keep your comments respectable and refrain from using any profanity. Thank you so much everyone for all of your support, it is greatly appreciated!
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